Being a social animal brings a lot of dangers. You meet people, you interact with people and sometimes, they interact with you.
As usually, during lunch I was sitting with my girlfriends and discussing relationship issues. I was chewing my chicken salad, when my friend said:
We cannot judge man and woman in the same way. I don’t wanna say woman are smarter, but they have higher emotional intelligence. Full stop. Accordingly, to the research made by some psychological institution, it takes a guy up to 3 weeks to process and understands what is happening on the emotional level of his life. I know it is hard to believe, but trust me. It is true.
None of us wanted to believe it. The questions were piling in my head. Is it possible to process the reality so slow? And if yes, does life provide us with a pause button, we could hit, to let a guy take his time?
Meanwhile, M0N1K4 dated a guy. At first, he seemed to be a price charming. After a couple of dates, a few red flags appeared.
He said he meets me, cos he pities me. Obviously, I stopped communicating him, but he asked to be friends. I don’t know what to think of that, she said. Another weird situation happened between them, so she confronted him. Over a dinner she told she can’t stand it anymore. She described this conversation as a very mature breakup. They finished the dinner, had a dessert, and went in opposite directions. No one cried, no one shouted and all seemed to be totally fine.
The time has passed and we all forgot about the guy, but he did not forget M0N1K4. 3 weeks later M0N1K4 said to us over a coffee:
Can you imagine? He wrote me a message full of hatred. It is all about how I manipulated him. I guess he never listened to me saying I don’t want to get involved. And he changed everything to fit his purpose so smoothly. My sentence I don’t wanna play with your feelings became I am playing with you while having the time of my life!
We, the friendly support group, were about to start saying whatever our friend silenced us saying:
Oh, girls. That only proves the 3-weeks theory. It takes men up to 3 weeks to realize what happened in their emotional lives.
Can it really be true? Is a 3-weeks theory a real thing? Does it take so long for men to understand what happened? And if yes, are there any psychological studies researching ways to fix it?
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