This post is for my dearest friend. I hope it will help you. I love you.
In the last couple of weeks, the subject of depression keeps coming back wherever I go. I am not a doctor, but I decided to take a stand.* Not to mention the most obvious, I wanna point one fact about it. Depression is one of the most common disabilities in the world.
Most of the disabilities are treated with mental and physical therapies. For example, having sick legs, you sign up for rehabilitation. Having a learning disability, you sign up for support groups, courses and so on. Such an approach seems so obvious, at least in my European culture, that when someone fails to follow it, we educate them and push to get needed support.
What most recommended for other disabilities, does not apply to depression. The most common practice in dealing with depression is medication. And that is it.
This also happened when I was diagnosed. I was 13 at that time and only a few days before I tried to kill myself. To keep me alive I was prescribed a lot of pills. One for mood swings, one for sadness and one for focus (cos I still had to study.)
With time, I noticed that medication is not a clue to cure my disease. Every time I tried to live sober life, the same bad things happened over and over again.
Paradoxically as it sounds, after multiple attempts to finish my life, I still had the will to fight for it. But as I was taught to take a pill to kill my mood swings, without medication I struggled to keep my shit together.
And what would happen when instead of getting drugged I learn how to act when the mood drastically goes down? I though at some point. This is how a breakthrough in my treatment happened.
These few points are a result of many tries and many failures, but in short they describe my routine in facing my disease.
- ACT UPON.
I listen to my body and act upon any symptoms of depression. For me, these are anxiety, sleepless nights and so on. When I notice any of them, I do whatever it takes, to keep a positive attitude for life. For example, I will exercise more to produce more hormone of happiness, serotonin.
- DO NOT STRESS ABOUT NOT IMPORTANT MATTERS.
I have a to do list for each day. If I feel down, I will follow up only on important tasks that cannot wait for next day.Adding more activities, add more stress to my day, so I will exclude as much of this stress as I can.
- BOOSTING CONFIDENCE BY REALIZING HOW MUCH I ACHIEVE.
When I am down, I will add to my to-do list all the things I do in a day. It looks like this: 1. stand up from the bed, 2. eat breakfast, 3. take a shower and so on. The idea of completing even one of those, makes me feel like a queen of the world. Yeah, I am down, but I still manage to brush my teeth. Those clean teeth are an ultimate prove, that I rock this day!
Thanks to these few steps, I manage to live my life without any medication at all for more than 7 years now.** These sounds super easy, but when the devil comes, they may be challenging. So when I fail to brush my hair for whole day, I do not stigmatize myself, but let it be. As I see it, in self acceptance is a key to happiness.
Hopefully, it will help whoever need help.
If you need to talk, do not hesitate to write me at [email protected], I will do my best to support you wherever you are.
Stay awesome guys!
*I am not a professional psychiatrist This post is based on experience I gained in fighting depression for last 20 years.
**Before stopping your medication, please speak with your doctor. Correctly stopped medication and preparation for the sober world is a key.
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